Pain Is Not From Loss

About this episode

Gen Gomlam discusses transforming the pain of loss into life-enhancing experiences through Buddhist teachings.

I Grieved for 20 Years… Until I Learned This We are delighted to welcome back Gen Gomlam in this powerful episode. How do you transform the pain of loss into something life-enhancing? In this conversation, Gen Gomlam – a Buddhist nun and former hospice nurse – shares her deeply personal journey through grief, from the loss of her brother to the healing of her relationship with her father. Drawing on Buddha's teachings on the mind, she explores how attachment keeps us locked in pain, why grief isn't the badge of love we think it is, and how real happiness can only be found within. Whether you're navigating loss right now or simply want to understand your mind better, this conversation offers practical wisdom and genuine hope. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 00:24 Early Experiences With Loss 04:11 Pain Comes From Our Reaction 06:41 Understanding Attachment 11:27 Prolonged Grief Is Attachment 19:07 Love Doesn't Die When They Die 20:36 Healing With Her Father 27:02 Tara's Mantra and the Funeral 31:03 Looking for Love vs. Loving Others 34:00 Therapy, Dharma and Lasting Change Book References How to Understand the Mind by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso Gen Kelsang Gomlam is a senior teacher within…

People in this episode

Hosts: Geshe Kelsang Gyatso, The Modern Buddhism Podcast

Guest: Gen Gomlam

Topics covered

• grief
• loss
• attachment
• Buddhism
• healing
• happiness

Keywords

• grief
• loss
• attachment
• Buddhism
• healing
• happiness
• mind
• therapy

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: New Kadampa Tradition

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