How to Build Resilience (Before You Need It) With Valorie Burton

About this episode

Valorie Burton discusses how resilience can be built as a personal system rather than being seen as a fixed trait.

Resilience is often treated like a personality trait. You either have it or you don’t. But Valorie Burton sees it differently: Resilience is a personal system you can build before life demands it from you. In this episode, Jay Papasan sits down with Valorie Burton, CEO of the Coaching and Positive Psychology Institute and author of Rules of Resilience, to unpack what it really takes to bounce back. They talk about the three parts of resilience: adaptive skills, protective resources, and preventive choices. They also dig into why leaders need to expect the unexpected, close their growth gaps, control the controllable, and choose thoughts that strengthen them. This conversation is a practical reminder that challenges are not just something to survive. They are opportunities to grow through, learn from, and use to become the person your goals require. Challenge of the Week: Set aside 30 minutes and ask yourself: What is the opportunity in the challenge I’m facing right now? It could be an opportunity to grow in patience, leadership, communication, courage, consistency, or self-trust. Don’t just go through the challenge. Grow through it. *** To learn more, and for the complete show…

People in this episode

Host: Jay Papasan

Guest: Valorie Burton

Topics covered

• resilience
• personal development
• leadership
• growth mindset
• adaptive skills

Keywords

• resilience
• adaptive skills
• leadership
• personal growth
• preventive choices

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Coaching and Positive Psychology Institute

Books & works: Rules of Resilience

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