The Myth of the "Perfect" Mom: Embracing Ambivalence in Motherhood
About this episode
This episode discusses the concept of maternal ambivalence and the complexities of emotions in motherhood with psychotherapist Dr. Margo Lowy.
Motherhood is often painted as pure joy, endless patience, and unconditional love. But what about the moments of frustration? The resentment? The overwhelm? The quiet thought of, “I love my child… but this is really hard.” In this episode, I sit down with psychotherapist Dr. Margo Lowy to talk about maternal ambivalence – the completely normal experience of holding love and difficult emotions at the same time. We unpack the difference between ambivalence and indifference, why so many mothers feel guilt for being human, and how naming these emotions actually strengthens connection rather than weakens it. If you’ve ever questioned yourself because motherhood didn’t feel magical 100 percent of the time, this conversation will feel like exhaling. We discuss: • What maternal ambivalence really means and why it’s misunderstood • Why loving your child and feeling frustrated can coexist • The myth of the “perfect, selfless mother” • How social media fuels unrealistic expectations • Why naming difficult emotions reduces shame • The power of community and choosing supportive voices • How humor and lightness protect us in hard seasons • Why responding instead of reacting changes everything…
People in this episode
Host: Dr. Mona Amin
Guest: Dr. Margo Lowy
Topics covered
- maternal ambivalence
- motherhood challenges
- emotional honesty
- social media expectations
- supportive community
- parenting guilt
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