99. Why your family lawyer can't do what you actually need - and what only you can do

About this episode

Danielle Black discusses the misconceptions parents have about their family lawyers and the limitations of the adversarial legal system.

Your lawyer is not trying to find the truth. And once you understand why - once you really understand how the adversarial legal system is designed and what it is and isn't built to deliver - everything changes. In this episode, Principal Coach Danielle Black explores one of the most misunderstood dynamics in family law: the gap between what parents expect from their legal team and what lawyers are actually trained and tasked to do. It's not a failing of your lawyer. It's the design of the sys...

People in this episode

Host: Danielle Black

Topics covered

• family law
• legal system
• parent expectations
• adversarial system
• lawyer roles
• misunderstandings in law

Keywords

• family lawyer
• legal expectations
• adversarial legal system
• parenting
• lawyer responsibilities
• family law dynamics

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