Why We Need to Reclaim “Lesbian Bed Death”
About this episode
The episode discusses the origins and implications of the term 'lesbian bed death' and explores intimacy in queer relationships.
When a clip from one of our earlier Tea Time episodes sparked a heated debate online, we knew we had to dedicate an entire episode to it. This week, we're unpacking the history of "lesbian bed death"—where the term came from, why many researchers now reject it, and whether it's time for queer women to reclaim it altogether. We talk about intimacy, consent, long-term relationships, aging, emotional connection, and why comparing queer relationships to heteronormative standards misses the point entirely. Whether you're in a decades-long partnership or just moved in together, this is one of our most thoughtful (and funniest) Tea Time conversations yet. Why You'll Love This Episode This isn't just a conversation about sex—it's a conversation about how queer relationships are often misunderstood. Jaimie and Dianni challenge decades of assumptions, share personal experiences from opposite ends of long-term relationships, and ultimately ask a bigger question: What if we've been measuring intimacy all wrong? 🏳️🌈 Key Takeaways The surprising (and problematic) origins of the term "lesbian bed death." Why measuring queer relationships through a heteronormative lens misses the point. How…
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