Ep. 51 Am I Damaging My Child? The 3 Shame Spirals That Keep Parents of PDA, Autistic, ADHD Kids Stuck
About this episode
The episode discusses the shame spirals that parents of children with PDA, Autism, and ADHD experience and offers insights on breaking free from these cycles.
"I lost it on my child. I'm damaging them." "My child is still struggling. I must not be doing enough." "We don't fit in anywhere. Something must be fundamentally wrong with us." If you've felt any of those things — you're not broken. You're stuck in a shame spiral. And in this episode, I'm going to show you exactly what's driving these loops, what's underneath them, and how to start breaking free. I share a real day from our hardest years — the morning I ran at my son like an animal, the afternoon I watched him fail to connect online, the evening I found out we hadn't been invited to a family event we were always included in. All three shame loops. One regular day. Then I walk you through: → Why shame is not a personal flaw — it's ancient survival biology wired into all of us → What actually happens in your nervous system when shame gets triggered (including the inner critic, dorsal vagal shutdown, and the emotions trapped underneath) → The childhood wound that was already there before your child arrived — and why this parenting keeps pulling that thread → What's really underneath each shame loop: the terror, grief, helplessness and longing that…
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