You’re Not Lazy — You’re Exhausted From Perfectionism (Ep 98)

You’re Not Lazy — You’re Exhausted From Perfectionism (Ep 98)

From The Secret Formula of Femininity by Dr. Nicole Monteiro

May 19, 2026 · 25 min

About this episode

Dr. Nicole Monteiro discusses the link between perfectionism and chronic fatigue, emphasizing the need for safety in rest rather than simply doing less.

You’re doing everything right… so why are you always tired? In this episode of The Secret Formula of Femininity , Dr. Nicole Monteiro explores the hidden connection between perfectionism and chronic physical fatigue—and why rest alone isn’t fixing your exhaustion. Many women feel “tired but wired”—mentally alert but physically depleted. This episode breaks down why that happens and how perfectionism, over-functioning, and nervous system dysregulation keep your body stuck in a cycle of burnout. In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why you feel exhausted even when you rest • The connection between perfectionism and fatigue • What “tired but wired” actually means • How over-functioning impacts your nervous system • The physiological cost of always being “on” • Why your body doesn’t feel safe to relax • How to start rebuilding energy and self-trust This is not about doing less. It’s about learning how to feel safe enough to rest. 💛 Ready to break free from burnout and perfectionism? Join the Boundaries to Bliss Society: www.drnicolemonteiro.com/boundaries

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Nicole Monteiro

Topics covered

  • perfectionism
  • fatigue
  • burnout
  • nervous system
  • self-trust
  • rest

Keywords

  • exhaustion
  • tired but wired
  • over-functioning
  • nervous system dysregulation
  • energy rebuilding
  • self-trust

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