I’m Only Okay If You’re Okay (Codependency Podcast Series)

About this episode

This episode explores the concept of codependency in marriage and its impact on emotional well-being.

What if your emotional state depends on your wife’s emotional state? In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we begin a new series on codependency and the hidden belief many men carry: “I’m okay only if she is okay.” Many men do not see themselves as codependent. They see themselves as loyal, helpful, responsible, and self-sacrificing. But underneath that can be fear, anxiety, people pleasing, and self abandonment. In this episode we talk about: How codependency shows up in marriage Why anxiety and codependency often go together How childhood patterns become adult relationship patterns Why self abandonment feels like love How codependency affects attraction and sexless marriages What healing looks like through the Secure Husband process We also set the stage for this month’s series as we go deeper into boundaries, fear of abandonment, nervous system work, people pleasing, and healing. If this connects with you, sign up for a free 30-minute consultation. This is just a conversation about what is happening in your marriage and how coaching might work for you. No sales pitch. No pressure. Just seeing if it is a good fit and how I can help. Learn more at: SecureHusband.com…

People in this episode

Host: M. Bruce Abbott

Topics covered

• codependency
• marriage
• anxiety
• self abandonment
• healing
• boundaries

Keywords

• codependency
• marriage help
• mental health
• self-sacrificing
• anxiety
• attachment style

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