What Started On Tinder Ended In Terror

About this episode

This episode explores the psychology behind coercive relationships and the societal narratives that shape women's experiences with love and control.

We raise girls on fairy tales—Prince Charming, fast love, and the promise of forever. They’re taught to be chosen, to be patient, to make relationships work. But what we rarely talk about is how these stories can shape what women learn to tolerate. In this episode of The Shadow Sessions, Hiba Balfaqih speaks with Annesa, who met a man online and quickly found herself swept into an intense relationship that escalated faster than she could question it. Within days, she was meeting family. Within weeks, he was pushing marriage, using faith and urgency to frame devotion as destiny. What followed wasn’t romance. It was love bombing, control, and escalating violence before the wedding ever happened. This conversation explores the psychology behind coercive relationships—how intensity can be mistaken for love, how cultural conditioning can blur warning signs, and why many survivors only recognize the pattern once they are already inside it. This episode examines intimate partner violence not just as an individual story, but as a broader social script that teaches endurance, obedience, and silence in the name of love.

People in this episode

Host: Hiba Balfaqih

Guest: Annesa

Topics covered

• intimate partner violence
• coercive relationships
• psychology of love
• cultural conditioning
• love bombing
• social scripts

Keywords

• Tinder
• love bombing
• control
• violence
• relationships
• survivors
• cultural conditioning
• intensity
• obedience
• silence

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