About this episode

Dr. LaChelle Wieme discusses how identity is the fundamental source code behind thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and behaviors, and why mindset work can fail without a stable identity.

There's a reason the same mindset work that used to move you forward suddenly stops working the moment things don't go as planned. It's not a discipline problem. It's not a focus problem. It's an identity problem, and in this episode, I'm breaking down why identity is the actual source code beneath every thought, feeling, belief, and behavior you have. I've spent years teaching the thoughts-feelings-beliefs-behaviors model, and I still use pieces of it. But what I kept seeing, over and over, was people doing everything right until one disappointing result sent the whole thing into a downward spiral. That's because without a stable identity underneath it, the model is only as strong as your last outcome. In this episode, I walk you through the framework I now build everything on: The hidden reason your mindset work creates a self-fulfilling loop the moment results disappoint you What the queen, the ice queen, and the prostitute reveal about the identity you're actually operating from Why the shift from needing validation to knowing your worth changes everything, in your business and your relationships Your identity is who you're being before you think, feel, or act. When you get…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. LaChelle Wieme

Topics covered

• identity
• mindset
• self-improvement
• behavior
• business
• relationships

Keywords

• identity
• mindset
• self-fulfilling loop
• validation
• worth
• behaviors
• business
• relationships

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