About this episode

Samantha Boss discusses effective communication strategies for co-parents to avoid conflict and ensure timely decisions for their children.

The hardest part of co-parenting isn't always what your ex says. Sometimes it's that they say nothing at all. They read it. They sit on it. They answer a completely different question, or they ask you one back while dodging yours entirely. And you freeze. You're not allowed to make a unilateral decision, so you wait. Meanwhile the school needs the form back Thursday, the coach needs an answer by tomorrow, and your kid keeps asking whether they can sign up for floor hockey. Our kids end up paying for another adult's decision to ignore us. This week I'm teaching you one of my favorite tools for exactly this, and I'm going to be honest with you: a lot of you are doing it wrong from the very first message. We start with BIFF . Brief, informative, and what I call factual and firm. No emotions. No history lesson. Some of you are long-winded over-explainers , and you're handing a high-conflict person way too much to work with. Then: everything in writing. No more driveway conversations. Use email or a parenting app, not texting, not WhatsApp, not Snapchat. I'll share two setups I love, including a separate email address used only for co-parenting and a cheap second phone one woman set…

People in this episode

Host: Samantha Boss

Topics covered

• co-parenting
• communication
• parenting plans
• conflict resolution
• family dynamics

Keywords

• co-parenting
• communication deadline
• parenting plan
• BIFF
• conflict
• email communication
• bullet points

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