Why Are We Fighting? Trauma & Turning Conflict into Connection
From The Wellness Driven Life Show by Evergreen Podcasts
March 19, 2026 · 33 min
About this episode
In this episode, April Chavez interviews Dr. Patricia Timerman Barbosa da Silva about transforming conflict into connection through her IAP Model and personal experiences with trauma and grief.
Ever walked away from a conversation thinking, "That's not what I meant at all—how did it blow up so fast?" On The Wellness Driven Life Show, April Chavez sits down with Dr. Patricia Timerman Barbosa da Silva—"Dr. T"—psychotherapist, author of Why Are We Fighting?, and founder of Advocate2Create. Drawing from her IAP Model—Intention, Action, Perception, which she calls a kind of "Google Translate" for communication—Dr. T helps couples, families, and individuals transform conflict into connection. Her work is shaped by a deeply personal story: immigrating to the U.S. at 14 without English, shifting from a planned medical career into psychotherapy, walking through suicide loss, and building a practice that serves grief, trauma survivors, and immigrants navigating legal evaluations. With over 12 years of experience, she offers research‑backed tools that honor both logic and the tender places inside us. In this episode, you'll explore: How the IAP Model explains why so many arguments aren't about the issue, but the gap between what we intend, what we do, and how it's perceived. Simple phrases and "pre‑ambles" that can de‑escalate tension and make it safer to say the hard thing. Why…
People in this episode
Host: April Chavez
Guest: Dr. Patricia Timerman Barbosa da Silva
Topics covered
- trauma
- conflict resolution
- communication
- immigration
- grief
- psychotherapy
Keywords
- IAP Model
- communication
- conflict
- trauma
- grief
- immigration
- psychotherapy
- suicide loss
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: Advocate2Create
Books & works: Why Are We Fighting?
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