About this episode

Laura Reagan interviews attachment expert Dafna Lender about integrating family dynamics into child therapy.

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! This week I’m sharing my conversation with attachment expert and author Dafna Lender about how she works with parents to help their children. As a family therapist, Dafna explains she spends at least 50% of the work with the parents, learning about what they experience physiologically and emotionally during stressful interactions with their kids. She talks about how some of the perfectionistic modern ideas about parenting make things more difficult for families, and how she uses EMDR and Somatic Experiencing in her work with parents. Dafna, the author of “Integrative Attachment Family Therapy: A Clinical Guide to Heal and Strengthen the Parent-Child Relationship through Play, Co-regulation, and Meaning-Making” shares about her Integrative Attachment Family Therapy (IAFT) model and her “Anti-Perfect Parent” program. Dafna Lender, LCSW, is an international speaker, trainer, and author with over 30 years of experience working with children and families. She is a certified trainer and supervisor in both Theraplay and Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy (DDP) and specializes in helping families heal from trauma and attachment disruptions. Resources…

People in this episode

Host: Laura Reagan

Guest: Dafna Lender

Topics covered

• child therapy
• family therapy
• attachment theory
• parenting
• EMDR
• Somatic Experiencing

Keywords

• child therapy
• family therapy
• attachment
• parenting
• EMDR
• Somatic Experiencing
• trauma
• parent-child relationship

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Integrative Attachment Family Therapy: A Clinical Guide to Heal and Strengthen the Parent-Child Relationship through Play, Co-regulation, and Meaning-Making

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