About this episode

Kier Gaines discusses the complexities of being a father to daughters and the impact of father wounds on women.

Most of Kier Gaines’ therapy clients are women, many of whom are working through difficult relationships with their fathers. This week, Kier and Dr. Joy discuss what a father wound can look like, how it affects daughters in adulthood, and why receiving an apology may not resolve years of hurt. He also shares what he had to learn while raising daughters, from ordering underwear online to recognizing the parts of girlhood he could not anticipate. He and Dr. Joy discuss where attachment research falls short for Black families, how people respond to him as a big, dark-skinned Black man doing tender work in public, and why he is careful when people describe his content as “healing.” Kier’s new book, It All Starts When You Do, is out now. He shares why waiting can become a habit and what it takes to begin before you feel ready. Resources & Announcements Want to reflect on this conversation in community? Join us inside our  Patreon  community where we’re unpacking this episode together. You can now catch episodes of the Therapy for Black Girls podcast on  YouTube . Be sure to subscribe to get new episodes every week.  Did you…

People in this episode

Host: Joy Harden Bradford

Guest: Kier Gaines

Topics covered

• father wound
• relationships
• girlhood
• attachment research
• Black families
• parenting

Keywords

• father wound
• Kier Gaines
• girl dad
• parenting
• attachment research
• Black families
• healing

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: It All Starts When You Do

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