676: Here’s Looking at You, Kid

About this episode

The episode explores how adults perceive children and how children question those perceptions.

Adults telling kids who they are, and kids wondering — are they right? Visit thisamericanlife.org/lifepartners to sign up for our premium subscription. Prologue: Host Ira talks with comedian Gary Gulman about his transformation from high school nobody to football star. (8 minutes) Act One: Gary puts on a tough guy costume, but will it turn him into a tough guy? Ira continues Gary Gulman’s story. (17 minutes) Act Two: Eleanor Gordon-Smith tells the story of a woman who wants to know why she was taken away from her mom as a kid. A version of this story is in Eleanor’s book Stop Being Reasonable: How We Really Change Our Minds. (30 minutes) Transcripts are available at thisamericanlife.org This American Life privacy policy. Learn more about sponsor message choices.

People in this episode

Host: Ira

Guests: Gary Gulman, Eleanor Gordon-Smith

Topics covered

• identity
• childhood
• transformation
• family
• self-discovery

Keywords

• identity
• childhood
• transformation
• family
• self-discovery
• Gary Gulman
• Eleanor Gordon-Smith

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Stop Being Reasonable: How We Really Change Our Minds

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