About this episode

Lana Poulson reflects on her decision to step away from online dating, discussing personal experiences and the importance of self-awareness and alignment in relationships.

In this chapter, I talk honestly about why I’ve stepped away from online dating—not from love, not from connection, but from the apps themselves. As a trans woman who later came into herself as a lesbian, online dating taught me a lot… and also showed me exactly what no longer aligns. I reflect on two real experiences that shifted my perspective, why ENM and open dynamics—while valid for some—don’t fit who I am at my core, and how choosing depth, clarity, and self-respect has changed how I move through dating entirely. This isn’t a rant and it isn’t bitterness. It’s about self-awareness, boundaries, and choosing alignment over algorithms. Sometimes opting out is the most grounded decision you can make.

People in this episode

Host: Lana Poulson

Topics covered

• online dating
• self-awareness
• boundaries
• trans identity
• lesbian experience
• ENM
• self-respect

Keywords

• online dating
• trans woman
• lesbian
• ENM
• self-respect
• boundaries
• dating apps

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