About this episode

The episode discusses the impact of intoxication on sexual consent and emotional intimacy in relationships with guest Amanda Dames.

When asked about the impact on a relationship when an intoxicated partner begs for or demands sex, and the coercion works because the drinker’s partner is trying to keep the peace, Amanda Dames tells Sheri and Matt that the dynamic damages trust. And the partner who agrees to unwanted sex is using her body to find or maintain safety. Amanda Dames is a sexologist, a somatic certified sex and relationship coach, and the host of the Kink Consultant podcast. This is a wide-ranging conversation about everything from sexual exploration to relationship recovery after trauma. Click here to link to the free guide Amanda mentions, and for all the resources on her website. Enjoy these insights from people comfortable crying in public. Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don’t really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.

People in this episode

Hosts: Matt Salis, Sheri Salis

Guest: Amanda Dames

Topics covered

• sexual consent
• emotional intimacy
• relationship dynamics
• trust
• trauma recovery
• sexual exploration

Keywords

• sexual consent
• emotional intimacy
• trust
• relationship recovery
• trauma
• sexology
• coercion

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Kink Consultant, UntoxicatedSurvey.org

More episodes of Untoxicated Podcast

• Ep357 – Sober Living Roundtable · July 20, 2026 · 1h 32m
• Ep356 – What does the partner owe the drinker? · July 13, 2026 · 1h 2m
• Ep355 – The Embarrassments of an Intoxicated Summer · July 6, 2026 · 1h 9m
• Ep354 – How a Lack of Safety Causes a Lack of Connection · June 29, 2026 · 1h 19m
• Ep353 – How Matt Grew to Understand what Sheri had Been Through · June 22, 2026 · 1h 14m

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