195. The Cost of Quiet: Reclaiming Your Voice, Financial Clarity & Emotional Safety in Divorce

About this episode

The episode discusses the impact of silence on emotional and financial well-being during divorce, featuring insights from psychotherapist Colette Jane Fehr.

What happens when silence becomes survival? In this deeply personal and powerful episode of My Divorce Solution’s We Chat Divorce, co-founders Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan sit down with licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert, and author Colette Jane Fehr for a conversation about emotional suppression, financial vulnerability, and the hidden cost of staying quiet in marriage and divorce. Colette shares her own divorce story — from a marriage that looked “perfect” on the outside to navigating emotional disconnection, postpartum anxiety, financial uncertainty, and fear-driven decision-making during divorce. Together, they unpack how silence often shows up as avoidance, people-pleasing, emotional suppression, and fear of conflict — especially for women navigating major financial and life decisions. This episode explores why so many people stay quiet about money, avoid difficult conversations, and enter divorce negotiations without fully understanding their financial reality. The discussion also highlights the emotional patterns that keep people from advocating for themselves — and how financial clarity can become one of the most empowering tools in divorce preparation…

People in this episode

Hosts: Karen Chellew, Catherine Shanahan

Guest: Colette Jane Fehr

Topics covered

• emotional safety
• financial clarity
• divorce
• communication
• emotional suppression
• financial vulnerability

Keywords

• divorce
• financial clarity
• emotional safety
• communication
• emotional suppression
• financial vulnerability
• negotiation outcomes

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Organizations: My Divorce Solution

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