Why Happy Couples Still Fight & “69% Of Problems Never Go Away”

Why Happy Couples Still Fight & “69% Of Problems Never Go Away”

August 27, 2026 · 24 min

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Paul discusses relationship dynamics with John and Julie Gottman, exploring why happy couples still fight and the nature of unresolved problems in relationships.

Paul sits down with world-renowned relationship experts John and Julie Gottman to uncover the science behind love, marriage and lasting connection. They reveal why happy couples still argue, why 69% of relationship problems never truly go away, and why conflict itself isn’t what destroys relationships. From the small daily behaviours that strengthen intimacy to the habits that can slowly damage a partnership, the Gottmans share decades of research into what makes relationships thrive. A fascinating conversation about love, trust, communication and the secrets behind couples who stay together. (00:00) Intro (00:28) Is Marriage Outdated? (07:43) The Gottmans Define a Successful Relationship (12:28) The Gottmans Explain the 6-Second Kiss (16:20) The Number One Cause of Arguments in Relationships Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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