Why I’m So Tired All the Time (Hint: It’s the Mental Load)

About this episode

Lucy and Sam discuss the mental load of motherhood and provide practical tips for overwhelmed parents.

In this episode, Lucy and Sam reflect on their last weeks podcast with Mel Goodman on the four types of mental load—and how each impacts your sense of self and wellbeing. We break down practical ways to recognize which load feels the heaviest right now and how a shift in perspective can free up mental space. From navigating the emotional worries that halo over everything, to managing the chaos of logistics with small yet powerful shifts—this is real talk for overwhelmed moms trying to find balance. You'll also hear candid stories about the chaos of school parties, the transformative power of saying no, and how prioritizing your mental health isn’t just a luxury—it’s a necessity. We get into how motherhood shifts your identity, why the first years are a fog of loss and rediscovery, and how to reclaim your sense of self amid the hustle. Plus, practical tips on easing logistical burdens like managing schedules, chores, and even solo travel with kids—because a lighter mental load isn’t just a dream, it’s within reach. If you ever felt guilty for feeling exhausted or wondered if you’re the only one struggling to balance it all, this episode is your permission slip to breathe. Perfect…

People in this episode

Hosts: Lucy, Sam

Guest: Mel Goodman

Topics covered

• mental load
• motherhood
• identity
• wellbeing
• parenting
• emotional health

Keywords

• mental load
• overwhelmed moms
• parenting tips
• identity shift
• emotional wellbeing
• logistical burdens
• self-care

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