About this episode

This episode explores the complexities of dating a Dane while navigating cultural differences and personal identity challenges.

Moving to a new country doesn't just mean learning a new language or figuring out the grocery store. Sometimes it means rebuilding your identity from scratch and that can put unexpected pressure on even the strongest relationships. In this episode of What Are You Doing in Denmark, Derek and Brooke respond to a heartfelt question from Laura, a Portuguese listener who's been living in Denmark for two and a half years and has a Danish partner. She wonders whether the challenges they're facing are relationship problems or simply the reality of navigating two very different cultures. Brooke lets us in on what it was like dating and marrying a Dane while living in her home country and now his. Derek shares the pros and cons of living in Denmark with a partner who is non-Danish and from the same native culture. While it seems like relationship complexities defy borders, this episode does offer plenty of advice, relatable experiences, and food for thought. Topics that get unpacked: Why internationals often feel like they've lost part of themselves after moving abroad The emotional labor of constantly asking questions about Danish culture Why Danes can feel exhausted being asked to…

People in this episode

Host: Derek Hartman

Guest: Brooke

Topics covered

• dating in Denmark
• cultural differences
• relationship challenges
• international community
• identity rebuilding
• communication
• emotional labor

Keywords

• dating
• Danish culture
• relationship advice
• cultural navigation
• expat life
• identity
• communication

Mentioned in this episode

Places: Denmark, Portugal

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