E125: Wired for worry: How pre-verbal trauma, anxious attachment & pregnancy loss are all connected with Guest Valerie Rubin

About this episode

Sharna Southan interviews somatic therapist Valerie Rubin about the connections between anxious attachment, pre-verbal trauma, and pregnancy loss.

March is Pregnancy after loss awareness. If this month is stirring something in you — the pull toward this work, the knowing that you are meant to be in this space, the idea that has been circling for months — Loss to Legacy starts March 19th. 4 weeks. 5 women. Live. The container that takes what you carry and builds it into something real. DM me LEGACY to apply. HERE _______________________ In this episode, Sharna sits down with somatic therapist Valerie Rubin to explore the profound and often invisible connection between anxious attachment, pre-verbal trauma, and pregnancy loss. Valerie shares her personal journey through chronic anxiety, physical health crises, and relationship patterns — and how working with the body changed everything talk therapy couldn't. Together they unpack why so many loss mothers feel consumed by hypervigilance, why you cannot think your way out of trauma, and how your nervous system may have been shaped long before your loss ever happened. In this episode: The reason chronic anxiety shows up in the body as physical symptoms, why "crying it out" conflicts with our biology as mothers, how pre-verbal trauma gets imprinted before we have language, what's…

People in this episode

Host: Sharna Southan

Guest: Valerie Rubin

Topics covered

• pregnancy loss
• anxious attachment
• pre-verbal trauma
• somatic therapy
• mental health

Keywords

• pregnancy after loss
• anxiety
• trauma
• somatic therapy
• nervous system

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: The Anxiety Recovery Podcast

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