About this episode

The episode explores the implications of using AI tools like ChatGPT in personal relationships and the ethical dilemmas that arise.

She comes to Esther with a question that feels distinctly of this moment: when does a tool become a transgression? After leaving a long, stable marriage, she finds herself in a new relationship marked by intense highs and low lows. She turns to AI, using it as a real-time coach to navigate arguments and break painful communication loops. She shows up differently, and the relationship begins to shift. But as the dust settles, a new question emerges. What does it mean to rely on something your partner doesn’t know about, and wouldn’t agree with? Is her use of ChatGPT a tool or a transgression? Esther Callings are a one time, 45-60 minute interventional phone call with Esther. They are edited for time, clarity, and anonymity. If you have a question you would like to talk through with Esther, send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com. Producer’s Note: When our anonymous guests do a session with Esther for the podcast, it is an act of generosity for everyone who listens. These sessions are meant not only to support the people in the room with Esther, but all of us who learn from their stories. Our stories have many chapters, and what you hear is just one moment in…

People in this episode

Host: Esther Perel

Guest: Anonymous

Topics covered

• relationships
• communication
• AI
• marriage
• transgression

Keywords

• ChatGPT
• relationships
• communication
• AI tools
• marriage

Mentioned in this episode

Products: ChatGPT

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