Lemons & Little Jackets & Other Turn-Ons: Come As You Are Chapter 2

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Amy and Tommy explore how childhood stories influence our romantic and sexual selves, referencing Emily Nagoski's insights from Chapter 2 of Come As You Are.

Amy & Tommy begin to connect the dots: have our favorite stories from childhood and teenhood shaped our romantic and sexual selves? Emily Nagoski explains as much in Chapter 2 of Come As You Are. Nagoski first blows the mind with the explanation of the dual-control model: we've all got sexual accelerators and sexual brakes. And not all of us are Lamborghinis! But then, there's CONTEXT. Nagoski is a terrific tease and the anticipation for Chapter 3 is PALPABLE! Mentioned in this Episode: F...

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Hosts: Amy Hoffmann, Tommy Borden

Topics covered

• sexuality
• childhood stories
• romantic development
• dual-control model
• anticipation

Keywords

• sexual accelerators
• sexual brakes
• Emily Nagoski
• Come As You Are
• romantic selves
• childhood influence

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Books & works: Come As You Are

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