About this episode

Vanessa Van Edwards discusses how to overcome social awkwardness and improve interpersonal skills based on behavioral science.

Maybe this sounds familiar: you leave a party and spend the rest of the night convinced everyone was upset with you. Or you replay something you said in a meeting for days and second-guess every last word. Vanessa Van Edwards has been there. As a self-proclaimed "recovering awkward person," she’s spent two decades decoding the hidden dynamics of human interaction to make those skills teachable for introverts and extroverts alike. Vanessa is a behavioral researcher, bestselling author, and founder of Science of People. In her book, Conversation: How to Be Instantly Likeable in Any Interaction, she makes the case that social skills aren't a personality type, they're learnable. And she believes we are living in the most critical moment in history to start learning them. In this episode you'll learn: ➡️ Why "just be yourself" is unhelpful advice + potentially cruel ➡️ The important everyday interactions technology + AI replaced ➡️ Where to stand at a party so someone always talks to you ➡️ How to have better conversations (+ why you already have the skills) ➡️ What the real antidote to awkwardness is ➡️ How to practice micro-social skills without turning people off ➡️ Why we’re all…

People in this episode

Host: Simon Sinek

Guest: Vanessa Van Edwards

Topics covered

• social skills
• behavioral science
• awkwardness
• human interaction
• communication
• self-improvement

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Science of People

Books & works: Conversation: How to Be Instantly Likeable in Any Interaction

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