About this episode

Tammy Sollenberger discusses the impact of grief and emotional wounds on self-identity and relationships.

Tammy Sollenberger is an IFS therapist and host of The One Inside podcast, and today she's not holding back. She shares about the sudden loss of her father and a devastating breakup — and how both pulled her back to a wound she's been carrying since before she was born: unwanted. ✨ What this episode explores ▪️ Grieving a Parent You Had a Complicated Relationship With — What it's like to mourn someone who both loved you and failed you. ▪️ Hiding Yourself to Keep Them — The many ways you disappear to stay in relationship, from losing your voice to hiding the parts of yourself that feel too risky to share. ▪️ Healthy vs. Unhealthy Reassurance — The difference between co-regulation and handing your whole nervous system over to someone else to manage. ▪️ The Wound of Being Unwanted — How feeling unwanted as a child becomes the reason you settle for crumbs as an adult ▪️ Connecting With Preverbal Parts — How to reach the parts of you that formed in utero or infancy, long before you had language for what you were experiencing. ----------------------- 🎧 If this episode resonated, you might also love: ▪️ Ep 190 | The Purpose of Our Pain: IFS Therapy to Heal Complex Trauma w/ Tammy…

People in this episode

Host: Andrea Ashley

Guest: Tammy Sollenberger

Topics covered

• grief
• self-identity
• relationships
• IFS therapy
• emotional wounds
• co-regulation

Keywords

• grieving a parent
• emotional abandonment
• self-disappearance
• co-regulation
• unwanted feelings
• IFS therapy

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: The One Inside

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