About this episode

David Deane Haskel discusses the impact of codependency and unresolved trauma in sobriety.

The most painful rock bottoms don't come from a relationship with a substance. They come from a relationship with a person. David Deane Haskel is an author of several fiction books, with his most recent being the memoir Wounded Angels . After losing his mother to suicide at the age of four, he spent the rest of his childhood navigating chaos at home and at school, while never feeling like he fit in. After finally finding sobriety, it was a codependent relationship that took him to new depths of pain and allowed him to embark on a journey to heal his unresolved trauma. ✨ What this episode explores ▪️ Hitting a Codependency Bottom — Why a codependent relationship hijacks the nervous system like a substance ▪️ Why Trauma Surfaces in Sobriety — Why most addictions function as a way to regulate unresolved trauma, and why removing the substance forces that trauma to the surface. ▪️ The Narcissistic Discard — Why a sudden, unilateral cutoff by someone you trusted reactivates the original abandonment wound in ways no other rupture can. ▪️ The Unique Attachment Wound of Losing a Parent in Childhood — How losing a parent to death or childhood in childhood creates an imprint no other loss…

People in this episode

Host: Andrea Ashley

Guest: David Deane Haskel

Topics covered

• codependency
• trauma
• sobriety
• mental health
• childhood loss
• narcissism

Keywords

• codependency
• trauma
• sobriety
• mental health
• childhood loss
• narcissism
• shame
• addiction

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Wounded Angels

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