Should I Stay or Should I Go? Part 2 - Resentment, Jealousy, Repair, and Complex Trauma

Should I Stay or Should I Go? Part 2 - Resentment, Jealousy, Repair, and Complex Trauma

April 24, 2026 · 24 min · Season 4 · Episode 21

About this episode

Amy Gordon discusses the complexities of relationship decisions influenced by complex trauma and emotional factors.

Are you constantly asking yourself, “Should I stay or leave this relationship?” If you live with complex trauma (CPTSD) , this question can feel overwhelming, confusing, and exhausting. In this episode of Adventures in Relationship , therapist Amy Gordon explores how attachment styles, trauma history, resentment, jealousy, and boundary violations shape your ability to make clear relationship decisions. You’ll learn how relational trauma distorts perception , why you may feel stuck “between a rock and a hard place,” and how to begin evaluating whether your relationship is truly salvageable—or harmful . This episode covers: How CPTSD impacts romantic relationships The role of attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, disorganized) Understanding complex resentment and emotional triggers How jealousy and fear of infidelity develop from trauma Signs your partner is (or isn’t) willing to change What healthy boundaries actually look like in practice Why repair, accountability, and effort matter more than promises How to tell the difference between hurt vs. harm When it’s time to stay, grow, or walk away If you’ve ever felt trapped in relationship patterns, struggled to trust your…

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