What happens after you stop pretending?

About this episode

This episode explores the transformation that occurs after embracing emotional honesty and living authentically.

On the pilot episode of this Becoming Season, we talked about emotional ownership, about finally saying things out loud, feeling all the feels (shame, resistance, anger, fear) and still “doing it” so we can finally be our most authentic selves and feel fully “real”.  Okay, now, what happens after that?  What happens when you stop performing, stop shrinking, and realize you don’t need to keep proving you’re enough? What happens when you are just fully yourself, unapologetically? In this episode, we talk about the quiet shift that comes after emotional honesty - the moment you start living from who you really are instead of who you think you should be. We talk about the “bee analogy”, how something scientifically “not supposed to fly” simply does what it was created to do - and why purpose might look less like striving and more like being. We talk about: life after emotional ownership dropping the front and letting yourself be seen (ooh scary, i know) self-trust vs self-performance If Episode 1 cracked something open, this episode is about learning how to live from that opening. You don’t need permission to be who you are. You just need to begin. Afraid, unready…

People in this episode

Host: Cara Eriguel

Topics covered

• emotional ownership
• authenticity
• self-trust
• self-performance
• living authentically
• emotional honesty

Keywords

• emotional ownership
• authentic self
• self-trust
• fear
• shame
• resistance
• bee analogy

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