We’re Parenting Too Much, And It’s Backfiring. What We’re Bringing Back from 90’s Parenting
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This episode discusses the negative effects of over-parenting and advocates for a return to the independence-promoting practices of 90's parenting.
We need to say something that might make you uncomfortable: we are over-parenting our kids. We are over-helping. Over-entertaining. Over-scheduling. Over-involving ourselves in every single moment of their lives. And it’s not making things better. It’s making our kids less independent, less resilient, and less capable of handling real life. In this episode, we’re bringing back the parts that 90’s parenting got right (not the fear-based, emotion-dismissing, boooooorderline trauma parts), but the parts that actually built confident, capable kids. Because back then? Kids figured things out. They got bored. They solved problems. They had space to become themselves. And today? We’re doing so much for them… they don’t get the chance. This episode will challenge you — in the best way. We’re talking about: Why your kid NEEDS boredom (and why it’s so hard for us to allow it) How constant involvement is quietly undermining confidence The science behind independent play and why it matters more than any activity Why fewer toys, fewer plans, and fewer interventions actually lead to better outcomes How to step back without feeling like you’re failing your kid Your job is not to make your…
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