After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

If your house sounds like a WWE match in a bounce house all summer long... this episode is for you. The arguing. The tattling. The screaming from the other room. The constant feeling that you've spent the last three hours breaking up fights and saying, "GUYS. PLEASE. JUST STOP." Most parents think sibling fighting means something is wrong. What if it's actually one of the most important relationships your child will ever have?In this episode, Kristin and Deena are giving you the exact roadmap for what to do when your kids won't stop fighting (hello summer) and the surprisingly common parenting mistake that can make sibling conflict even worse.You'll learn:When to step in... and when to stay out of itWhy playing detective ("Who started it?!") backfiresWhat to say in the moment when things are escalatingThe simple shift that helps kids actually solve problems togetherThe science-backed way to reduce sibling rivalry before it startsHow to teach the social skills your kids need for life, not just for summerBy the end of this episode, you'll understand what's really happening beneath the sibling chaos, exactly how to respond, and how to raise kids who can disagree, repair, and stay connected—even when they're driving each other absolutely insane. This isn't just about the summer, it's about creating the groundwork for a lifelong healthy sibling dynamic and closeness.If you've ever hidden in the pantry eating snacks while your kids scream at each other in the next room... press play immediately. This episode might save your summer.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Cozy Earth - Head to cozyearth.com and use code BIGLITTLEFEELINGS for up to 20% off!Quince - Refresh your wardrobe with Quince. Go to quince.com/BLF for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. ResortPass - Visit resortpass.com/BLF to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or more.Tumble - MachineWashableRugs, MadeBetter. For a limited time only, our listeners get 10% off + free shipping at Tumbleliving.com/BLFVisit Myrtle Beach - You belong at The Beach – Myrtle Beach, South Carolina. Plan the best family vacation ever at VisitMyrtleBeach.com.Warby Parker - Buy one prescription pair and get 20% off any additional prescription pairs at WarbyParker.com/BLF.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Divorce is one of the most painful decisions a parent can make, and there's one thing that's always top of mind when facing a possible separation or divorce: will my kids be okay? Today's episode will give you a big, firm, YES. And shows you EXACTLY how to move through this difficult chapter to ensure the best outcomes for you, and your kids. Because the truth is, a healthier household is the BEST choice for your kid, and often, this means choosing the difficult path of divorce, not despite your kids, but FOR your kids.In today's episode, Deena sits down with Gabriella Pomare, a family lawyer, co-parenting expert, and mom who has lived this reality herself. Together, they go far beyond surface-level advice and into the real work of co-parenting when emotions are raw, grief is heavy, and your kids still need you to lead.This conversation tackles the questions parents are often too afraid to ask:How do you support your kids through separation while you’re still breaking inside?What actually harms kids after divorce, and what protects them long-term?How do you co-parent with someone who won’t cooperate?How do you set boundaries, reduce conflict, and stop kids from carrying adult pain?And how do you grieve the family you imagined… without letting that grief shape your child’s future?Gabriella shares practical tools, hard-earned wisdom, and a powerful reframe: divorce doesn’t create broken families, unresolved conflict does. This episode is about emotional leadership, healing without involving your kids, and redefining what a healthy family can look like after everything changes.If you’re considering separation, in the middle of it, co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, or supporting someone who is, you need this episode. You'll walk away with everything you need to have a healthy, happy family - even in this new, different looking stage of life.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Little Spoon - Get 30% off your first order at littlespoon.com/BLF30 with code BLF30.Nutrafol - Head to nutrafol.com and enter the promo code FEELINGS for $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping. Quince - Refresh your wardrobe with Quince. Go to quince.com/BLF for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Unreal Snacks - Visit unrealsnacks.com/BLF to get $2 off a bag of Unreal. Terms and conditions apply. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Most parents are doing everything they can to raise good kids, and still feeling exhausted, reactive, and unsure if they’re actually helping in the long run.So much parenting advice is obsessed with today’s behavior: listening, sharing, cooperating, “being good.” But this episode zooms out and asks a much bigger question: Who are you raising your child to become?Kristin sits down with parenting researcher, Whole Parent founder, and author Jon Fogel to challenge one of the most deeply ingrained ideas in parenting: that control and obedience create resilient kids. Together, they unpack why obedience can look like a win in the short term, while quietly undermining confidence, resilience, and emotional health over time: and what actually builds those skills instead.They explore how everyday power struggles shape the adult your child will eventually become, why so many well-intentioned discipline strategies backfire, and how shifting from rules to values can completely change your home dynamic.This episode will:* Help you shift your focus from short-term obedience to long-term emotional health* Reframe discipline as skill-building, not behavior control* Clarify the difference between rules and values — and why values actually stick* Explain why yelling is a nervous system issue, not a discipline strategy* Give you a framework for parenting with respect, boundaries, and authorityThis conversation will change how you think about discipline, power, and success in parenting. It’s for parents who want to stop micromanaging behavior and start raising confident, capable adults, without losing boundaries or authority along the way.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Experian - Get started with the Experian App now! See experian.com for details.Ka’Chava - Go to kachava.com and use code BLF. New customers get twenty dollars off an order of two bags or more, January 1st through the 31st!Peloton - Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.comSkims - Shop our favorite bras and underwear at skims.com. #skimspartnerProduced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The world tells us the newborn stage is supposed to be magical. Soft lighting. Sweet snuggles. “Soak it all in.” But for so many parents? It’s a blur of no sleep, hormonal whiplash, identity loss, and quietly asking yourself, “Why am I not okay?” Deena is back from maternity leave, and in this raw, deeply honest conversation, we’re finally talking about what she actually lived through. Not the highlight reel. Not the “grateful, glowing, cherishing every moment” version. The real one.We talk about the adrenaline of the first weeks… and the crash that hits after. The rage no one warns you about. The intrusive thoughts you don’t want to admit. The weird grief that can exist right next to overwhelming love. The exhaustion of juggling a newborn and other kids. And the pressure to be “back to normal” when your nervous system is still in survival mode.This episode is for the parent who loves their baby fiercely… and still feels like they’re barely holding it together.In this conversation, you’ll learn: • Why the postpartum hormone crash can hit weeks in, not right away • Why irritability, rage, and numbness are just as real as anxiety or sadness • How struggling is so much more common than you think  • And how to stop telling yourself you’re doing this wrongWhether you’re in the thick of the newborn stage right now or still carrying the emotional imprint of it years later, this episode will make you feel seen, understood, and a help-you-breathe-again kind of relieved."This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Bobbie - Head to hibobbie.com to find the formula trusted by parents and loved by their babies–700k and counting. Nutrafol - Head to nutrafol.com and enter the promo code FEELINGS for $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping. Quince - Refresh your wardrobe with Quince. Go to quince.com/BLF for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.  Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.