185 - Why Do I Keep Getting Angry Over The Same Things?

185 - Why Do I Keep Getting Angry Over The Same Things?

From Anger Secrets by Alastair Duhs

May 17, 2026 · 11 min · Episode 185

About this episode

Alastair Duhs discusses three mindset shifts to help break the cycle of repeating anger patterns.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs walks through three powerful mindset shifts to help break the cycle of repeating anger. Whether it is the same argument with your partner, the same trigger at work or the same driver cutting you off, he explains why the pattern keeps happening and what you can do to finally change it. Rather than offering generic advice, Alastair gets to the root of why anger keeps repeating. These are real, practical shifts. And the good news is they are skills anyone can learn. Key Takeaways: Repeating anger patterns do not mean something is wrong with you. There is a specific reason the same things keep triggering you, and once you understand it, everything changes. Practicing acceptance is not about being passive. It means letting go of the idea that anger will change what you cannot control. When you stop fighting that battle, your anger has nowhere to go. Empathy is one of the most powerful tools in relationships. When you pause and ask what might be going on for the other person, the defensiveness drops and there is suddenly room for a real conversation. Anger makes…

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Host: Alastair Duhs

Topics covered

  • anger management
  • mindset shifts
  • empathy
  • relationships
  • acceptance
  • forgiveness

Keywords

  • anger
  • mindset
  • empathy
  • relationships
  • acceptance
  • forgiveness
  • mental health

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