385: It's Not the Men. It's Who You Keep Choosing.
About this episode
Dr. Doug Lisle discusses the impact of evolutionary psychology on relationship choices and self-perception.
A listener who knows evolutionary psychology well asks Dr. Doug Lisle a painful question. If men seem satisfied once they have food and sex, and never care about her inner life, is she fighting a losing battle against biology? His answer flips it. The problem was never the men. It was who she kept choosing. In this episode of the Beat Your Genes Podcast, evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle and co-host Nathan Gershfeld work through two questions. In the first, Dr. Lisle uses David Buss research and his own decades of clinical conversations to explain why men will trade almost anything to get looks, why kindness outranks intelligence as the first trait both sexes seek, and why a woman who keeps ending up with men who are only three octaves deep is looking at her own evolutionary design, not a shortage of deep men. He lays out the piano octaves metaphor, the self awareness test sitting underneath the complaint, and what it would actually take to choose differently from the start. In the second question starting at 43:31, a 63 year old hyper conscientious vegan athlete is furious that her overweight friends are now thinner than her after six months on GLP-1 drugs. Dr. Lisle…
People in this episode
Hosts: Dr. Doug Lisle, Nathan Gershfeld
Guest: 63 year old hyper conscientious vegan athlete
Topics covered
- evolutionary psychology
- relationship choices
- sexual attractiveness
- self-awareness
- competitive status
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