386: How to Handle Bad Advice Without a Fight
About this episode
Dr. Doug Lisle discusses how to handle unsolicited advice without conflict.
What do you say when a friend or family member recommends horse-assisted coaching, family constellations therapy, or the latest protein fix for your problems? Evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle explains why arguing back is like trying to pee up Niagara Falls, and what to do instead. Dr. Lisle breaks down the hidden motivations behind unsolicited advice, why every one of these exchanges is really a status contest, and how his Seems Strategy lets you exit the conflict without surrendering your integrity. He also covers why psychodynamic therapy is the modern equivalent of bleeding patients, the management principle that ends recurring arguments, the story of an executive who lost a major VP job by correcting a CEO, and David Burns' anti-heckler technique for defusing public status challenges. 0:00 The question: how do you respond to non-evidence-based advice? 1:08 Why advice only comes up in conversations that matter 2:29 Why you love music: the evolutionary tangent 4:57 The two real motivations behind every piece of advice 6:47 Where the culture's canned solutions come from (protein, the four food groups) 9:09 The more likely motive: esteem pressure 11:03 The question to ask…
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Host: BeatYourGenes
Guest: Dr. Doug Lisle
Topics covered
- bad advice
- conflict resolution
- psychology
- status contest
- therapy
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