Turns Out, You’re Not Oversharing. You’re Undersharing with Harvard Professor Leslie John

About this episode

This episode discusses the importance of self-expression and the risks of undersharing with insights from Harvard professor Leslie John.

What if the real risk isn’t oversharing…but undersharing? We spend so much energy worrying about saying too much – about TMI, about revealing something we might later regret. But in the process, many of us end up living with more unsaid than said, and with more authentic moments missed than taken. On this counterintuitive (and hilarious) episode of Becoming You, host Suzy Welch speaks with Harvard professor Leslie John about the underrated power of oversharing and her new book “Revealing.” The conversation explores what the Becoming You methodology calls an authenticity gap in the value of Voice – the distance between how much we value self-expression and how much we actually practice it. When should you reveal more of your inner world? How can revealing more build trust, deepen connection, and help you live more authentically? And what is the true cost of silence? Oversharing isn’t the enemy. Neither is restraint. The real skill is learning how to reveal in a way that serves both you and the people around you. This conversation is about Voice, about closing the gap between what you value and how you live, and about practicing self-expression as a learnable skill. And yes, you’ll…

People in this episode

Host: Suzy Welch

Guest: Leslie John

Topics covered

• oversharing
• undersharing
• authenticity
• self-expression
• trust
• connection

Keywords

• oversharing
• undersharing
• authenticity gap
• self-expression
• trust
• connection
• revealing
• Becoming You
• Values Bridge
• PIE360

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Harvard, Becoming You, Values Bridge, PIE360

Books & works: Revealing

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