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Dr. Greg discusses the complexities of borderline personality patterns, focusing on the fears of abandonment and annihilation.

Borderline personality patterns are often misunderstood and mislabeled—but beneath the surface is a painful struggle shaped by identity instability, emotional overwhelm, and the exhausting push–pull between fearing abandonment and fearing annihilation. In this episode, Dr. Greg brings clarity and compassion to this pattern, offering language and hope for anyone who recognizes these dynamics in themselves or in someone they love. Key Topics: Why borderline patterns are so often misunderstood The exhausting push–pull between fearing abandonment and fearing annihilation How identity instability fuels intense relationship dynamics Why emotions can feel overwhelming and all-consuming Why conflict and drama can start to feel like proof of connection How integration and truth open the path toward healing Learn More: Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Pattern: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Pattern: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Stop Walking on Eggshells – A guide for navigating relationships…

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