233. Why You Keep Falling Back Into Old Patterns (Even After Doing the Work)
From Beyond Awareness: Closing the Gap Between Knowing and Doing by Samantha Hawley | Inspired by Brene Brown, Glennon Doyle, Marie Forleo, Hillary Kerr, Mel Robbins
April 7, 2026 · 34 min · Season 4 · Episode 233
About this episode
This episode explores the challenges of reverting to old patterns after personal growth work and how to navigate this process with awareness.
You did the work. You named the belief. You felt the shift. And then somehow… you’re right back in it. Saying yes when you meant no. Filling your time again. Second guessing yourself. Apologizing after you finally spoke up. It makes you question everything. Like maybe it didn’t actually stick. You’re back at square one. This is the part no one prepares you for. Releasing a belief isn’t the finish line. It’s where things start to get real. Old patterns don’t just disappear. They come back in quieter, sneakier ways. And if you don’t recognize them, it’s so easy to think you’re doing something wrong. You’re not. What’s happening here is part of the process. The discomfort, the pull to go back, the confusion… it’s your system trying to find what’s familiar. Once you can see how it shows up for you, you move through it differently. Not perfectly. But with awareness that actually changes something. If you’ve been in that space of “I thought I already worked through this,” this will land. Work with me: Breakthrough Intensive - You already know you should slow down, delegate more, stop overcommitting & be emotionally present. So why can't you? That's what we figure out in 90 minutes…
People in this episode
Host: Samantha Hawley
Topics covered
- old patterns
- self-awareness
- personal growth
- emotional presence
- belief systems
Keywords
- old patterns
- self-awareness
- personal growth
- emotional presence
- belief systems
- coaching
- discomfort
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