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This episode discusses the Tween/Teen Expectation Gap and its impact on parents of neurodivergent children.

SUMMARY - Many parents of neurodivergent tweens and teens describe a shift that feels difficult to explain: things were already challenging, but suddenly the stakes feel higher, the behaviors feel bigger, and the future feels much more uncertain. In this episode, I introduce what I call the Tween/Teen Expectation Gap—the widening gap between age-based expectations and a child's developmental trajectory—and explore why this period can feel so disorienting, grief-filled, and overwhelming for parents. TAKEAWAYS: The tween and teen years often bring a significant increase in societal, academic, social, and emotional expectations. Neurodivergent children continue to develop and mature, but often on a different timeline and trajectory than their peers. The Tween/Teen Expectation Gap emerges when age-based expectations begin to outpace a child's ability to consistently meet them. Differences that may have been easier to accommodate in childhood often become more visible and consequential during adolescence. Parents frequently experience increased fear, grief, dread, shame, and uncertainty during this stage. Intensifying behaviors are often a reflection of increased stress, overwhelm…

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