Episode 237: How to Avoid Self-Sabotage Through "Tapping" and EFT with Therapist and Author Carol Looke

Episode 237: How to Avoid Self-Sabotage Through "Tapping" and EFT with Therapist and Author Carol Looke

From Brilliantly Resilient by Mary Fran Bontempo

February 7, 2026 · 40 min · Episode 4

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Carol Looke discusses how self-sabotage can hinder resilience and introduces tapping as a method to overcome it.

“Resilience isn’t about pushing harder—it’s about aligning what you want with what your system feels safe enough to allow.” ~ Carol Looke: Therapist, Coach and Author of The Yes Code and Yes Thank You Are you sabotaging yourself? The obvious question is, "Why would anyone do that?" The not so obvious answer is that you may not know you're doing it. Carol Looke is a renowned therapist, author and coach who explores how resilience and forward momentum can be blocked not by lack of effort, but by unconscious sabotage and unresolved nervous system stress. Carol (who grew up with two alcoholic parents) explains that we often live in survival mode--a mindset that focuses on keeping us safe and avoiding potential harm, whether the risk of harm is real or not. In an effort to avoid harm, the mind creates obstacles to risk, ultimately keeping us stuck. Our emotional stress, internal resistance, and self-sabotage also live in the body and nervous system, not just in our thoughts. So what to do? One helpful solution, consistently applied, relies on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), one portion of which relies on "tapping." Tapping relies on releasing stored emotional tension by tapping on…

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