The Certainty Gap: How to Find Grounding in Your Identity

About this episode

Pam discusses the difference between confidence and certainty, particularly for first-gen Latinas, and shares practices for grounding in one's identity.

In this solo episode of Café con Pam, Pam talks about what it actually means to feel certain—and why so many first-gen Latinas constantly feel like they're not enough for any room. We break down the difference between confidence (which we can fake) and certainty (which has to come from deep within), and shares why Calladita Culture was stealing our sense of wholeness before we even noticed. If you’ve ever felt too much or not enough, this episode is your reminder that your unique blend of identities is your superpower, not a flaw. Pam also walks us through simple, body-based (somatic) practices you can use anytime to anchor yourself back into who you really are, so you can show up with more authenticity—just in time for spring’s season of blooming. Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at www.savvyladies.org Check out BMO here Do you want to support our show and get ad-free episodes? Join our Supporters Club here . Follow Cafe con Pam on all things social: The Unmuted Era Discover your Ikigai Get on the waitlist for…

People in this episode

Host: Pam Covarrubias

Topics covered

• identity
• first-gen Latinas
• confidence
• certainty
• authenticity
• somatic practices

Keywords

• identity
• confidence
• certainty
• first-gen Latinas
• authenticity
• somatic practices
• Calladita Culture

Sponsors

Savvy Ladies

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: BMO

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