Feel It, Don't Feed It: Own Your Emotions Without Being Owned by Them (w/ Margaret Cullen)

Feel It, Don't Feed It: Own Your Emotions Without Being Owned by Them (w/ Margaret Cullen)

From Chasing Excellence by Ben Bergeron & Patrick Cummings

March 26, 2026 · 50 min · Episode 488

About this episode

The episode explores how to own your emotions through equanimity without being overwhelmed by them.

Most of us were raised with only two options for dealing with difficult emotions: act them out or stuff them down. In this conversation with Margaret Cullen, author of Quiet Strength , we explore a powerful third door — equanimity — and learn how to fully feel our emotions without being hijacked by them. Discover why equanimity isn't about dulling your feelings — it's about deepening them while staying free. We dig into practical cognitive hacks for breaking the cycle of reactivity, the 90-second rule that can transform how you respond to life's hardest moments, and how creating the right conditions can let calm arise naturally rather than being forced. Learn to widen your window of tolerance and connect with reality as it actually is. 👉 Get the full Listener's Guide here ❤️ Free Newsletter & the Chase Club 🏁 New to Chasing Excellence? Start here! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

People in this episode

Hosts: Ben Bergeron, Patrick Cummings

Guest: Margaret Cullen

Topics covered

  • emotional intelligence
  • equanimity
  • reactivity
  • self-awareness
  • mental health

Keywords

  • emotions
  • equanimity
  • cognitive hacks
  • 90-second rule
  • mental resilience

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Quiet Strength

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