#155 Resolving the Push-Pull Dynamic of the Trauma Bond with Dr. Nima Rahmany

About this episode

Dr. Nima Rahmany discusses the push-pull dynamic in relationships after betrayal and the importance of regulating emotional states for healing.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Nima Rahmany to unpack the push-pull dynamic that so many couples experience after betrayal or relational trauma. He explains how our nervous system shifts between states like fight-or-flight, shutdown, and connection—and how real healing requires learning to regulate those states rather than just understanding the dynamics intellectually. Dr. Nima Rahmany is a nervous system and trauma specialist helping individuals heal attachment wounds and become trigger-proof in love and leadership. Formerly a chiropractor, he now guides clients through somatic and shadow integration to break free from toxic patterns and self-abandonment. Dr. Nima offers several programs designed to support this process, including his ⁠Attachment Style Quiz and the Trigger Proof Experience , a monthly program focused on emotional regulation and relationship transformation. If this episode resonated with you, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, or sharing it with someone who might need this conversation. Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create…

People in this episode

Host: Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

Guest: Dr. Nima Rahmany

Topics covered

• trauma bond
• emotional regulation
• relationship transformation
• betrayal trauma
• attachment wounds

Keywords

• push-pull dynamic
• nervous system
• healing
• infidelity
• relationship repair

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