#156 Anger After Betrayal — What It Really Means & How to Work With It with Matt Wenger, LPC, CSAT, CCPS

About this episode

The episode discusses the role of anger in betrayal trauma and how to manage it through nervous system regulation.

Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions in betrayal trauma — but still shapes every interaction, every conversation, and every attempt at repair. In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Matt Wenger, LPC, CSAT, CCSP to unpack what anger actually is, what it’s protecting, and why nervous system regulation is the key to responding rather than reacting. Because anger isn’t the problem. It’s the nervous system underneath it that determines what happens next. Matt is the Executive Clinical Director of Begin Again Institute , a treatment center that offers Trauma Based Intensives for Men seeking recovery from porn and sex addiction. He has served more than 1,500 families since 2019. Matt’s expertise is in men’s addiction, betrayal trauma, childhood trauma, couple’s recovery and the spiritual aspects of recovery. Matt holds a Master’s degree in Couples and Family Counseling and is credentialed as Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS). If you would like to connect with Matt: beginagaininstitute.com matt.wenger@bai.care https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-wenger-19b883294/ Connect With…

People in this episode

Host: Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

Guest: Matt Wenger

Topics covered

• anger
• betrayal trauma
• nervous system regulation
• men's addiction
• couple's recovery

Keywords

• anger
• betrayal
• nervous system
• trauma
• recovery
• infidelity
• couples therapy

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Begin Again Institute

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