The Child Only You Know

The Child Only You Know

June 1, 2026 · 14 min · Season 1 · Episode 36

About this episode

This episode discusses the importance of understanding the unique perspective parents have on their children compared to educators and how this insight can be clinically valuable.

You've been in that room. The parent-teacher conference. The conversation with the coach or the family member who loves your child and is still somehow describing a person you don't quite recognize. And you sat there, nodding, holding it together, thinking: that's not my kid. That's a version of my kid. But it's not the whole thing. This episode is about why the picture you're carrying is more clinically valuable than anyone has ever told you — and why getting a map for it doesn't add to your load. It makes what you're already carrying lighter. In this episode: Why parent and teacher ratings of the same child correlate at only 0.30 — and what that number actually means for what you've been seeing at home Why the gap between who your child is at school and who they are with you is not inconsistency — it's the most important data you have What the assessment literature says about parent report that nobody has ever said to your face Why doing this without a map is costing you more than you realize — and what changes when you finally have one Plus: a story about a driver's ed instructor who wrote my daughter off on day one — and what happened by the end. By the end of this episode…

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