Should I Stay or Should I Go? | Q&A with Dr. Jennifer

About this episode

Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses the complexities of deciding whether to stay in or leave a marriage, using listener questions to guide the conversation.

Couples who change in a real way are sometimes the ones willing to face the genuine possibility of ending their marriage. Not as a threat or a tactic, but as an honest reckoning with what they stand to lose and who they really are. After all, you can't give a meaningful yes to something if there's not a viable or real no. In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife uses listener questions to guide a discussion about the decision whether to stay in or leave a marriage. She talks about what it looks like to be in a marriage without having truly chosen it, why ambivalence is never a neutral place, how to know when divorce is the right answer, what it means to put your marriage on the line as an act of honesty rather than control, and why desire can't exist where fear or obligation is running the show. ANNOUNCEMENTS: Intimate Exposures Workshop in Utah Couples' Workshop in Utah (tickets coming soon!) Starting Strong Workshop in Utah

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Topics covered

• marriage
• divorce
• relationship decisions
• ambivalence
• honesty in relationships

Keywords

• marriage
• divorce
• relationship advice
• ambivalence
• honesty
• couples therapy
• self-improvement

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