Using the Enneagram to Understand Your Relationship | Room for Two Teaser

Using the Enneagram to Understand Your Relationship | Room for Two Teaser

From Conversations with Dr. Jennifer by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

March 5, 2026 · 43 min

About this episode

The episode discusses how Brad and Kate use the Enneagram to navigate their relationship dynamics and improve communication.

Join us for a FREE Q&A about the Enneagram - click HERE for details! Brad and Kate have been working to understand themselves and each other better, using the Enneagram to better understand how they each respond to stress and disconnection. They've been talking more openly and defending less—but when tensions rise, Brad moves toward action and physical closeness, hoping connection will bring relief while Kate pulls back, wanting to feel emotionally secure before opening up. This leaves Brad feeling rejected and Kate worried that intimacy is more about sex itself than truly being with her. Because Brad seems steady on the surface and Kate is openly emotional, it's easy for both of them to assume she's the problem—but they're equally dysregulated, just in different ways. Want to unlock the full episode and over a hundred more that are just as powerful? Subscribe to Room for Two!

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Topics covered

  • Enneagram
  • relationships
  • communication
  • emotional security
  • intimacy

Keywords

  • Enneagram
  • relationships
  • communication
  • intimacy
  • emotional security
  • stress response

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Room for Two

Books & works: Enneagram

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