When Attraction Fades (or was never there...) | Q&A with Dr. Jennifer
About this episode
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife discusses the complexities of attraction in long-term marriages and answers listener questions about desire and relationship dynamics.
Attraction isn't just about chemistry. It's tied to meaning, and meaning can change. In a long-term marriage, what we find desirable in a spouse is shaped less by biology and more by the meanings underlying the relationship. When those meanings shift, desire shifts with them — leaving you either pulling away from a spouse you once desired, or trying to make sense of one who's pulled away from you. In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers listener questions about attraction, touching on how to build desire in a marriage where it wasn't there to begin with, what it means when a spouse admits they don't feel attracted to you, and how old patterns of resentment and control can undercut desire without either partner realizing it. Want to learn more? Enroll in the Sex Worth Wanting course!
People in this episode
Host: Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Topics covered
- attraction
- marriage
- desire
- relationship meaning
- listener Q&A
Keywords
- attraction
- marriage
- desire
- relationship
- listener questions
Mentioned in this episode
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