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In this episode, Shan Boodram discusses the importance of feeling desirable and how confidence in dating starts from within.

In Day 4 of our 7 Days of Dating Confidence, we're talking about what it really means to feel desirable—and why confidence and attraction start from within. In this episode, certified sexologist Shan Boodram shares why flirting is simply intentional communication, how chemistry develops, and why embracing your sexuality and desires can make dating feel more empowering. We discuss how to stop performing for other people and instead feel more comfortable expressing interest, attraction, and authenticity. If you've ever questioned whether you're attractive enough or struggled to own your desires, this episode is your reminder that confidence comes from feeling connected to yourself first. Learn more about Shan Boodram visit https://www.shanboodram.com/ - Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for…

People in this episode

Hosts: Yue Xu, Julie Krafchick

Guest: Shan Boodram

Topics covered

• dating confidence
• self-esteem
• flirting
• sexuality
• attraction
• authenticity

Keywords

• dating
• confidence
• desirability
• flirting
• self-expression
• sexuality
• attraction

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Dateable, Simon & Schuster, Dateable AI Dating Coach

Books & works: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love

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