271. How to Attract a Securely Attached Partner w/ Dr. Amir Levine

About this episode

In this episode, Talia Koren chats with Dr. Amir Levine about attracting securely attached partners and building security in relationships.

Have you read or heard of the book Attached? I'm chatting with  Dr. Amir Levine , psychiatrist, neuroscientist, and author of  Secure  and co-author of  Attached,  a book that has indefinitely changed my life. In this episode, we break down exactly how to attract and spot a securely attached person in early dating, and how to build more security in your life (whether you're in a relationship or not). At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a listener who flew across the country for a guy who then changed his mind. You'll learn... All about Dr. Levine's CARP and SIMI frameworks Why CARP should be your new non-negotiable dating standard How to do a "CARP intervention" early without it feeling like a big emotional conversation Why a secure relationship is supposed to feel boring The strategy for distancing yourself from someone who isn't meeting your standards Why most of us already have secure people in our lives and keep ignoring them How your attachment style can be totally different with different people (yes, even your pet) MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Secure by Dr. Amir Levine Dr. Levine's website: amirlevinemd.com Attachment Quiz Dr. Levine's…

People in this episode

Host: Talia Koren

Guest: Dr. Amir Levine

Topics covered

• attachment styles
• dating advice
• relationship security
• self-improvement
• psychology

Keywords

• attachment theory
• secure attachment
• dating standards
• relationship advice
• CARP framework

Sponsors

Quince

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: amirlevinemd.com

Books & works: Attached, Secure

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