Dating Intentionally

How much can you really know about someone after three dates? Not enough to know if they're your forever person, but definitely enough to spot signs that they're worth continuing to get to know. In this episode, I'm breaking down 10 green flags to look for on the first few dates that tell you to keep going! We'll talk about the difference between real green flags and behaviors that only look promising, why consistency matters more than chemistry, and how to tell whether someone's actions actually match their words.You'll learn:The #1 green flag that creates connection quicklyWhy initiative and follow-through are different (and why you need both)How to tell if someone is rushing the connectionThe role consistency plays in building trustWhat someone's relationship history can reveal about themWhy feeling calm around someone is often a better sign than feeling a sparkGreen flags submitted by listeners from their own dating experiencesBehaviors that seem like green flags—but aren'tPlus, I answer a Dating Dilemma from a listener whose partner struggles with emotional conversations and discuss how couples can navigate different comfort levels around difficult feelings.THANKS TO OUR SPONSORSQuince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/taliaCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm chatting with Amanda McCracken, author of When Longing Becomes Your Lover, about the psychology term taking over dating culture: limerence. We're discussing everything from the difference between a crush and full-blown limerence to how ADHD can fuel the dopamine chase, why distance and uncertainty make feelings burn brighter, and how Amanda finally took her real-life crushes off the pedestal. Amanda also shares how she identified as a late-in-life virgin into her forties, and how she eventually built the secure, "boring," trusting relationship she once avoided. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a casual hookup that turned into real feelings, right before he moved several states away.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEBook: When Longing Becomes Your Lover: Breaking from Infatuation, Rejection, and Perfectionism to Find Authentic Love Amanda's work: www.amandajmccracken.comInstagram: @AmandaJMcCrackenPodcast: The Longing LabTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSQuince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/taliaCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What can we learn about dating from Love Island? Turns out - a lot. I'm watching Love Island USA Season 8 to pull real-life dating takeaways from the villa. This week (episodes 5-9), I'm getting into early dating expectations, knowing your needs, and how important it is to let someone show you who they are. Actions speak louder than words every time. I also talk about how people pleasing can be harmful and why it's GOOD that secure relationships feel boring. So much to unpack here.THANKS TO OUR SPONSORSQuince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/taliaCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.